Friday, June 16, 2017

How The Heck Are You? 6/16: Falling In Love

I'm in a good mood this morning. The cap'n has really been trying to keep his drinking in check and hasn't been drinking in the morning. Baby steps are good enough for me at this point, trying is good enough. I'm back on track with my goals and following Pierre's lead in writing out my hard and soft goals every day, a simple thing that really does seem to work. I love checking those goals off.

Day before yesterday an acquaintance of mine in Mexico was killed by a hit and run driver while he was returning from his morning bike ride, Every morning I would see Lynn  ride his bike by our house, it was his passion and he participated in several bike races worldwide. He was 71 and he did what he loved daily. People often ask how I quit drinking and I tell them, "I was convinced I was going to die if I didn't quit." That's what it came down to for me, quit drinking or die. But what keeps me sober is the life I've created with my sobriety. I love it. Oh yeah, I gripe sometimes and I'm not always giddy-happy like I was in the beginning, but I f'ing love my life. That's the secret. That's why I can't stop trying to make it better and better, because the minute I fall out of love? Yeah.

My mother died 28 years ago today, she was 57 and I don't think she ever got a chance to do what she loved, I'm not sure she even knew what that was or that it was even a choice. That makes me very sad. I would give anything to spend one more day with her and ask her what it was she loved. To honor both of them today, I'm going to make sure and do something I love-besides eat ice cream.

How the Heck Are You?

P.S.  I read an encouraging blog this morning by the founder of ONYB (One Year No Beer). OYNB is a support community that encourages people to change their relationship with drinking in order to pursue a healthier more active lifestyle. 

While this recent article does seem to slant toward abstaining permanently: there is some great info on the alcohol industry's increasing efforts to offer more NA and low alcohol drinks and to reverse society's belief that you have to drink in order to be happy.


  1. So sorry to hear about your friend. That's terrible. But I know what you mean about going out doing what one loves. It's a cliche, but I know that so many of us go through our lives not doing what we would love to do. I was just listening to a talk yesterday about focus and eliminating distractions and doing what we love to do. I have struggled with that because I am not sure I have found what I love to do. I wish I knew. I pray about it almost daily and don't quite know. But I was listening to Alan Watts yesterday (I love listening to speakers!) and there is one things he mentioned about this - you don't know what you really want because 1) you already have it 2) you don't know yourself.
    (I am going to write a post about this, actually). So it's a tough thing to figure out sometimes!

    Anyway, I am so happy you are writing again. And that you are sharing this kind of thing - it makes me think for sure. I too should think about what I want to do that makes me happy. Other than sleeping and

    I am a bit under the weather so I am taking it easy. So maybe that's a nice way to spend time with myself.


  2. I'm sorry about your friend, too.
    And your mother died so young.
    What keeps me sober is how much happier I am.
    I laugh more and hug more.