Wednesday, October 17, 2012
For The Most Part
I just took a big step and shared this on my facebook page with the comment "400 Days". I don't know why I think it's such a big step, most everybody that has been around me in the last year already knows that I no longer drink, and most of those know how bad I drank before. It will be old news for them. As far as the people it will be new news for? Does it really matter to me if someone I haven't seen since high school finds out I'm an alcoholic and haven't drank in 400 day? How about the friends that knew me when I was living on the boat? They are all probably very skeptical, but that doesn't matter to me either.
But it might matter to one of them. One of them may say, "OMG! If Kary May can quit drinking, than I can quit.
So that's why I posted it.
I won't be surprised if I don't get any comments, let's face it, "they" really don't know how to react to such a proclamation. Are they supposed to congratulate you on being an alcoholic?
And on that score, let's talk about Crying Out Now 's recent post about changing the word alcoholic from "bad" to "brave." For the most part, I agree with everything that is stated in the article. It is time to put a new face on the face of alcoholism. If Brad Pitt can be the new face of Chanel 5 maybe we could get George Clooney to sell sobriety. Hell, I'll buy anything that man is selling. Of course, we may have a hard time getting George to drink the kool-aid.
Or maybe we should just put our own faces out there because they are the real faces of alcoholism. And they're beautiful like those faces in the above video.
Now for the part I didn't agree with. I don't agree with the statement "I don't think that one can stay sober long term completely online." I don't believe that's true. I believe that right now is just the advent of people finding support for their various recoveries from their various addictions through the internet and I believe the numbers are going to grow. And has been the case in other areas of internet support whether it be banking, shopping or filing taxes the ease and convenience and, especially in the case of recovery services, the anonymity is going to attract people away from traditional f2f programs and it's going to attract those that would never consider a traditional 12 step, face to face program, whatever their reasons or biases be.
It's the future.
Is this a better way?
I don' know, but it's another way.
And I believe we all have to find our own way.
There will always be a need for the traditional 12 step, face-to-face programs for some.
But now there are other ways for others.
I believe we should celebrate all of our different and converging roads to sobriety and I believe we should help others find their own paths instead of insisting that they follow ours. Sometimes it is impossible for someone else to follow in our footsteps, does that mean they should not be allowed to take the journey?
Is there something missing in a program that does not provide physical contact with a live human being? I think we have to acknowledge that, yes, of course there is. An internet connection can't take the place of a hug or a shoulder to cry on. However, is it possible to find sobriety without the support of another breathing human being to lean on? Of course. People have being getting sober on their own since way before AA was formed, perhaps now these people have a means of viable support. Nobody has to go it alone anymore.
Maybe the new face of a recovery programs is a face in front of a computer screen sharing her story with hundreds of people on various message boards or blogs. Maybe the new face of sponsorship is someone answering a text from someone across the globe that says, "Help!"
Let's all respect our respective paths to sobriety.