Saturday, June 4, 2016

Those Yets

The above quote is usually used to convey that we are heading toward a goal. We haven't made it "yet," but we're getting closer.  What if we replace those airy goals with all of those "yets" that we use to pacify ourselves into believing we're not as bad as we think we are.

"I may not have lost my job because of my drinking-yet-but I'm closer than I was yesterday."

"I may not have damaged my marriage beyond repair-yet-but......

"I may not have gotten a DUI-yet-but..."

Here's the other thing about those yets...we use them them to qualify the word, alcoholic.  I've heard so many, many, many-myself included-people say, "I'm not an alcoholic, I've never gotten a DUI, or lost a job or divorce."

So, with that in mind, if you go out tonight and get a DUI, that makes you an alcoholic? That makes you different than you are right now?

The biggest step we make is when we quit trying to justify and excuse our drinking, when we say,  "I don't care if I'm an alcoholic or not, I don't want to get any closer to my "yets." I'm quitting."


  1. GREAT post!
    I loved the question about the DUI!!
    I didn't want any lets either, which is why finally, with a lot of support, able to quit this time.
    Because it was only a matter of time. I felt my "luck" would run out soon.
    And yes, call me an alcoholic or not, all I know is, drinking was messing up my life!!!

  2. Hurrah to that! Three cheers for you, KM x

  3. I completely agree. The first step towards beating alcohol addiction is realizing you are an alcoholic. If you don't know you have a problem you're not going to be able to change. The why fix it if it's not broke kind of attitude is hindering. Listen to your friends and family if they tell you that you have a problem.

    Stephanie Waters @ Chastaine Law

  4. One thing I learned about goals is to not focus on what you don't want. If you focus on NOT getting a DUI, you attract that energy. I focus on only positive thoughts like being healthy, prosperous, kind, cheerful, and caring. Each day I am thankful for what I have and I seem to keep attracting more of it in my life.