A little background: My oldest son is 31. He is single and hasn't had a girlfriend in quite awhile because he feels he has too many financial obligations right now to take on the expense of a girlfriend. He is very pragmatic, almost to a fault. He has a Bachelor's degree which is one of those useless degrees (he was in a hurry to graduate because his girlfriend at the time was in another college faraway). His last single best friend just got engaged at Christmas. He lost his long-time, "going nowhere" job about 6 weeks ago and immediately lucked into a well paying but also "going nowhere" job. In the midst of his job crisis, he applied for re-admission to K-state, he received a letter a week ago that they had accepted him in the engineering program.
This is the email I sent him yesterday. I feel so blessed, proud, relieved, hopeful,....that I am able to say these things to him. I have been very open about my struggles with him and he has been supportive all along the way. I am so grateful that I did not destroy my relationship with my kids, I can't change the view when they look back, but I have the opportunity to make the future outshine the past.