Okay, I haven't been posting, but I have been reading...some. I know that all of you newly sober and wanna be sober people are worrying yourself to death about all the upcoming Christmas parties and I have one solution.(Sorry, I'm too late for last night's party)
Don't lie to yourself!
Do not tell yourself this before the party:
"I'm only going to have two, three at the most. I'll space them out. I'll drink water between. I'll be fine."
Instead, tell yourself this:
"If I drink, I am going drink until I am embarrassingly, flat-ass drunk. I am going to make a colossal fool of myself.. I'm going to sleep with someone I'll wish I hadn't. I'm going to make an inappropriate comment, probably lots of inappropriate comments to my co-workers and they will never again view me in the same light or with the same respect. I'm going to fight with my husband. I'm going to dread going into the office on Monday. People are going to be talking about how I acted and laughing behind my back. (This is not a figment of your imagination.). I am going to think seriously about finding another job. I'm going to wish I'd never been born. I'm going to carry this feeling in my back pocket through out the holidays and on into the New Year and I'll pull it out again same time next year when the holidays roll around. This feeling is going to crowd out other good feelings I have about myself. It is going to steal love from myself and foster hate in it's place.
Then tell yourself:
I am going to the party, but I will not drink and I am going to revel in that decision. I won't need to fear what follows after the party, Instead, I can go on through my holidays with happiness and peace and a sense of well-being.
Merry Christmas, Amigos! I know you'll tell yourself the truth.
