Saturday, December 12, 2015

Don't Lie

Okay, I haven't been posting, but I have been reading...some. I know that all of you newly sober and wanna be sober people are worrying yourself to death about all the upcoming Christmas parties and I have one solution.(Sorry, I'm too late for last night's party)

Don't lie to yourself!

Do not tell yourself this before the party:

 "I'm only going to have two, three at the most. I'll space them out. I'll drink water between. I'll be fine."

Instead, tell yourself this:

"If I drink, I am going drink until I am embarrassingly, flat-ass drunk. I am going to make a colossal fool of myself.. I'm going to sleep with someone I'll wish I hadn't. I'm going to make an inappropriate comment, probably lots of inappropriate comments to my co-workers and they will never again view me in the same light or with the same respect. I'm going to fight with my husband. I'm going to dread going into the office on Monday.  People are going to be talking about how I acted and laughing behind my back. (This is not a figment of your imagination.). I am going to think seriously about finding another job. I'm going to wish I'd never been born. I'm going to carry this feeling in my back pocket through out the holidays and on into the New Year and I'll pull it out again same time next year when the holidays roll around.  This feeling is going to crowd out other good feelings I have about myself. It is going to steal love from myself and foster hate in it's place.

Then tell yourself:

I am going to the party, but I will not drink and I am going to revel in that decision. I won't  need to fear what follows after the party, Instead, I can go on through my holidays with happiness and peace and a sense of well-being.

Merry Christmas, Amigos! I know you'll tell yourself the truth.


  1. I love this! Thank you for giving clear voice to the alternatives. As it happens, I am going to a party today, the third festive night out in a row, which is a lot for me. I am, absolutely 100% not going to drink. And I am feeling filled with joy, which isn't my usual holiday mood at all. Merry Christmas to you, too! xo

  2. That right there is a testimony to truth, ya'll. Can I get a "Hell-yeah?"
    Have fun!

  3. Oh Kary May... How I wish I'd seen it post yesterday. Because everything you said, everything you wrote... was so so true. Thankfully it was not an office party. Thankfully it was with my close friends who know me very well. December is a rough ride for me. To be honest I am looking forward for it to be over.

  4. Great post Kary. And so true! Thank you for this post. A x